ramblings from the noisedoctor

April 24, 2007

does God have a sick sense of humor?

Filed under: adoption, Christianity, family, infertility, marriage — noisedoctor @ 10:45 pm

Yes, I’m kidding. But after what I heard today, I have to ask myself the question jokingly, because it almost seems true.

My wife and I have been trying for a year and a half now to get pregnant. We’ve been seeing a specialist (RE) since December. My wife knows a woman who is in a less-than-ideal marriage. After her second child was born, she had her “tubes tied” because her husband absolutely does not want another child.

Today we learned that she might be pregnant–though it’s very possibly an ectopic pregnancy.

God, are you kidding me? Here’s someone that really doesn’t want to get pregnant and took very reasonable steps toward preventing pregnancy. And she still gets pregnant, somehow. Yet here we are, trying, taking drugs, inserting all manner of medical equipment in places, etc. and we can’t seem to get the miracle we want.

Don’t get me wrong. I feel absolutely terrible for this woman. Her husband is completely “unsupportive” (her word) in this situation. If it’s not an ectopic pregnancy, she will likely have an abortion. That just breaks my heart.

Is this meant to spark an interest in adoption? Or is this just some more random event? I just don’t get it.



  1. The careful study of the Bible will answer that question for you.


    Comment by agnosticatheist — April 25, 2007 @ 7:31 am

  2. Yes, I know that. No offense, but my initial statement was that I was kidding. I know God doesn’t have a sick sense of humor. But, with yesterday’s events, I had a moment of just wondering about it… since it just sounded like a sick practical joke at our expense.

    Comment by noisedoctor — April 25, 2007 @ 7:39 am

  3. I have been in that situation too many times. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for over 7 years and in that time, nearly everyone in our family has had not one but two children. My young cousin is even 4 months along. None are in ideal parenting situations and we’ve owned a house and had steady, well-paying jobs the whole time. Sometimes it does seem like a sick joke.

    We’re on the adoption route now after a very bad allergic reaction to Clomid. The thought of more fertility treatments makes me want to vomit. Now, I am pregnant on paper and I get to choose my children. If you want a peek of the choices I get, you can visit http://www.myturnnow.com and look at photos and videos of the kids who have been in foster care for years hoping desperately for a forever family. Since we’ve been going this route, I feel that this is really what God had in mind for us – He works things out for the perfection of everyone involved.

    Comment by Cyndi — April 25, 2007 @ 8:36 am

  4. noise,

    I know you were kidding. However, my point was that there was some truth to your statement as the Bible would demonstrate.

    Look a the story of Job. Here’s a righteous man who becomes a pawn in a cosmic game between God and Satan. He loses everything, including his children, as a result of this game. So God gave him more children. Does that take away the pain of losing his children? Personalize the story and put yourself in Job’s shoes.

    However, my choice would be to believe that the Bible is not accurate vs. saying that God has a sick sense of humor so I agree w/you.


    Comment by agnosticatheist — April 25, 2007 @ 8:52 am

  5. Well, I choose to believe the Bible and that it is accurate in its original language. Do I like what it says in places (like the story of Job)? Nope. Do I like the fact that God predestines some to be saved and some to not be saved? Not one bit. However, I believe that if I start to pick and choose what parts of the Bible I like, then I start molding God to fit who I want Him to be. And, that’s not right, IMHO. God made me, not the other way around.
    I can respect your opinions and choices (I read some of your blog). However, that’s just not my perspective.

    Comment by noisedoctor — April 25, 2007 @ 8:59 am

  6. Feel free to see some wonderful adoption testimonies from couples who were infertile. http://www.Hisheartfororphans.blogspot.com
    Found your blog through comments on CWO random link.
    God has a plan for you!

    Comment by Aimee — April 25, 2007 @ 4:07 pm

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